Have you ever noticed how some things just seem insanely hard to say? What is it that catches our tongues and makes what is on our mind or on our hearts so difficult to say? Are we afraid of looking like the bad guy? Afraid of rejection? Afraid of revealing our true self? Afraid, is that what we are? Are we all really just big cowards?
I've caught myself holding my tongue on countless occasions. I think this has a lot to do with the fact that I was raised being told "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." But who gets the final say on what is "nice" ? And what if the truth isn't nice? Are we expected to lie in order to save someone's feelings? I understand the principle behind wanting to save someone's emotions, but is there a line between being polite, and being a flat out liar?
What about instances in which emotions are involved? Take love for example. It seems like we have been programmed to believe that we have to wait until the most opportune moment, and last possible second before it's acceptable to say. There are so many "rules" and "games" that people play when it comes to love. If you feel it, why can't you just say it? I've seen so many people appologize for saying "I love you" too soon. Too soon? What is there, some love time zone? "Oh it's just past I like you a lot o'clock, time to say I love you!" I understand that it's a huge thing to say, especially when you truely feel it, and you're unsure of how the other person feels. I just wish we'd all stop with the games, and stop second guessing our feelings. If it feels right, say it.
Actually, I wish we'd all stop second guessing ourselves general. If someone asks for your opinion, don't stop to find the most appropriate response for whatever scenario you're in. Say what you feel. If you have an actual reason, belief, or feeling behind what you're saying, the world deserves to hear it. Passion is power. If you say what's on your mind or in your heart, you might get weird looks, or snooty comments, but those facts alone prove you're the bigger person. I try my hardest to listen and respect the opinions and beliefs of others. There is no way in hell that I agree with everyone, but I don't have to agree with what someone is saying to offer up a little respect.
I think a lot of us are actually lacking respect for ourselves when we bite our tongues. If you don't believe in what you're feeling, enough to let it be heard, why should anyone believe in it? If you've got something to say, say it. Words are powerful, embrace that power. Use it to your advantage. We could change the world if we weren't so afraid of letting our voices be heard. So speak up, you never know who might be listening.
So my challenge for you: Say what's on your mind, or on your heart. Let your voice be heard.
I'm going to leave you with a link to my current favorite song. The song is Words I Never Said by Lupe Fiasco. It honestly sums up a lot of what I was thinking and feeling when writing this post. Enjoy! http://youtu.be/22l1sf5JZD0
Lindsey. Twenty-Five. Currently pursuing a degree in Professional Writing & Film Studies.