Have you ever noticed how you always end up hurting the ones you love the most? It sounds so cliche, but if you think about it, it's true. Yesterday I spent the day shopping with my mom and sister. I don't know what it was, but we all fought with eachother the entire time. It was insane. Every little thing would set one of us off. The stuff we said to eachother was horrible, too. I couldn't imagine saying some of that stuff to friends, enemies, or even strangers. Then I started thinking later that night. What makes it okay to say horrible things to your family, that you would never say to another person? Honestly, nothing makes it "okay" but I think we all let down our filters when we're talking to the people closest to us.
Doesn't it seem like you get into the worst fights with your family, your bestfriends, and your boyfriend/girlfriend? You fight with the people you're supposed to love way more frequently than you fight with the people you don't really care about. It seems so backwards. I think we do this because in the back of our minds, we know these people are still going to love us, even if we're horrible to them. For example, when you're fighting with your mom, you know that she's supposed to love you no matter what. Therefore you feel like you can fly off the handle without as many repercussions as you would have if you say, got into a fight with your boss at work.
Even though these people are expected to be there for us, no matter what, our words still hurt them. In fact, when I fight with my mom or sister, the things they say hurt far worse than anything a stranger could say to me. Even if a stranger said the exact same thing my sister did, it would hurt more to hear it coming from my sister. I just feel like we should all be more cautious when we're fighting. I know this can seem impossible in the heat of the moment. I know when I'm angry the last thing I'm worried about is hurting someone's feelings. I mean, in a sick way, you want the things you're saying in a fight to hurt the other person.
I would instantly start a fight with someone if they ever spoke to my mother like I speak to her. So why do I still say terrible things to her? Habit? If it's just a habit, it's way worse than biting fingernails, and drinking milk out of the carton could ever be. So my goal is stop hurting the people I love the most. I'm really going to try and watch what I say. If I wouldn't say it to a stranger, I'm going to try and stop saying it to the people I care about most. None of us are perfect, so we'll all screw up at some point. But I think the effort will be worth the reward. The reward being that you can show these people how much you love them, by actually treating them like you love them!
So my goal for you is to: Fight fair when you're fighting with the people you care about most.
Just a side note, I've been really busy this weekend, so that's why I'm just now updating my blog. To make up for my missed blogs I've added a new poem called "The Chosen One" so check that out. Also, I would like to thank my friend Kyle for helping me decide what to blog about today =)
Lindsey. Twenty-Five. Currently pursuing a degree in Professional Writing & Film Studies.